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 in response to Jennie2121...   I don't know how to work this, I'm trying to reply to you privately but it says this is an public post, so I don't want to put anything that I've done specifically to get help, and the results ...... I even see I posted in the wrong area of how are you today. If you can tell me how I would respond without it going on public post I'd like to reply back to you privately, I know there is a way to but I don't know how.

I need legal help, please not messages complimenting me on my picture. If you have legal advice, resources to offer, are willing to help me in some way shape or form please send me a private message. I have to survive while going through this, so I've put a pic. on here only so that if anyone out there is willing to help, they can see who I am and possibly meeting see that I am the person righting this.... that this is not bs, this is very serious. I was in a DV shelter, and the worst thing I did was going back, but I did and I cant take that back, bc unfortunately I'm going through life righting in pen not pencil and cant erase the stupid mistakes I have made. I am going to try to enclose, it is very hard for me, I'm not too good with uploading pics, getting this on here was very hard, but I'm now going to try to enclose a picure or more if possible of what they did to me before the shelter, and I hate myself for falling for his bs and going back, I don't know how I could have been so very dumb, obviously if he loved me none of this would have been done to me, and he would not be doing to me what he is now. THANKS IN ADVANCE TO ANYONE WILLING TO OFFER REAL HELP, NOT COMPLIMENTS ON MY PICTURE, I NEED HELP. THANK YOU

First and foremost I want my children, I miss my children ... But am told my children don't want to see speak to or even right to me. In the meantime with all of this going on, I'm living on assistance in a very small amount of just a little over $700 per month, with a housing subsidy for only one person, since the children are not with me, I am expected to provide for 3 people. I am getting no financial support from my still legal husband, and cant seem to find anyone to take my case from legal aid, I'm trying now for 3 yrs. In this time, after them being with him for 3 months he filed for child support and got it, in the amount of $25 per month. I know that is nothing, but on my income its a matter of eating or not eating, paying my gas bill or having it turned off, being able to afford to wash what few cloths I have, or not leaving the house bc I have no cloths to wear that are clean .... HE IS LIVING IN LUXURY, WITH ALL THE MARITAL PROPERTY, PLUS MY NON MARITAL PROPERTY ..... WHEN I WAS IN ARREARS OF $275 HE WANTED ME PUT IN JAIL, I HAVE NOT SEEN MY GIRLS IN 2 YEARS APPROXAMATELY, A LITTLE LONGER NOW ACTUALLY, OR HEARD FROM THEM NOTHING. I HAVE A SMALL SHARE OR RENT TO PAY OF $150, THEN I HAVE ELECTRIC BILL EVERY MONTH, VARIES MONTH TO MONTH, BUT I'D SAY THE AVERAGE OF THE BILL ADDED UP AND DIVIDED BY 12 MONTHS, SUMMER AND WINTER THE AVERAGE IS ABOUT $1,200 PER YEAR. My gas bill average is about $20 a month, I have bare basic tv phone and internet service, all three in one is the cheepest way to go and that is $93 per month, then I have a basic metro pcs cell phone which is $50 a month. What about transportation, one round trip a day is $4.50, and thats only if I'm going to a one fare zone, alot of appointments for doctors, legal resources, court, is a double fare. What about being able to go to the beach in the summer just to have some entereainment, I cant bc that would be $4.50 a day just for carefare and taken away the carefare for the bare necessities like doctors and court. I have no clothes but hand me down, whatever clothes I did have were good enough I never was too particular but for my kids, so I never really bought myself much of anything but sneakers.... but what ever clothes I had including socks are there, shirts, coats, there all there. Whatever money I got when I was approved for ssi around 2007 (retroactive benefits) I put into that house that is under his fathers name, bought him an $1,800 chain he wanted for xmas, and the rest on the kids and a vacation for the summer to camel beach in pennsylvania for the four of us, so that is gone. Whatever I had before I met him, which was a settlement from a injury I got when I was 21 yrs old, it settled as his father bought that house, and with that money I fixed up the house. So now I have no furniture, just daybeds for the kids, thinking they were coming with me, and those were bought with a one shot deal for furniture from social services, 2 old television sets bought for $40 from craigs list, a table my very distant half sister gave me. What about things like soap, shampoo, toothpaste, feminine products, cleaning supplies, a pair of boots for the winter, a couch to sit on. Yet they will put me in jail if I don't pay him $25 a month, and hes living in LUXURY FOR FREE IN THE HOME OWNED BY HIS FATHER, WITH A WOMAN HE PICKED UP ON MYSPACE FOR HER MONEY, plus wining and dining other woman of his choosing. But he has over $2,000 a month legal income, then theres the money he makes doing things like selling oxyconton 80 mgs. on the side. He has cars, all the latest gadgets, vacations with his girlfriend and my children..... I have to survive, and yet I've been told I did not demonstrate I'm unable to pay, so pay or go to jail. I've been denied spousal support one time so far, now I have some more evidence of what he is getting but am told my best option is a divorce. But with an open custody case no legal aid office will take a divorce. I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO, I WAS IN THE SHELTER WITH THE KIDS BC AFTER SERVING HIM WITH A FULL PUT OUT OF THE APARTMENT ORDER AND STAY AWAY ORDER FROM ME AND THE KIDS, HE WENT DOWNSTAIRS STAYING WITH BOTH HIS SISTER AND HIS FATHER IN THE BASEMENT. THEY WERE FURIOUS AND WANTED RETALIATION TO SAY THE LEAST. While I was in the common hallway that is the only way to answer to the outside or come or go, his father came up and began verbally attacking me and physically had me cornered and putting poking me in the face with his nails, then his grandaughter by his daughter and her friend got into it, they beat me nearly to death with the order of protection in my hand, with my husband watching, the police waved away the ambulance and arrested me charging me with assault 3. I was very sick all night, woke up in a hospital on a machine was told I had a grand mal seizure and almost died. WELL I HAD A LAWSUITE, I FILED FOR DIVORCE, I GOT INTO THE DV SHELTER, THEN HE BEGGED ME NO DIVORCE, THE KIDS BEGGED ME, HE SAID HE LOVED ME, I WENT BACK I DROPPED LAWSUITE THAT WAS ABOUT TO SETTLE FOR 1.5 MILLION DOLLARS ..... the thing is it was not against the city but his father, so the fathers insurance homeowners was cancelled and their was a lein on the house. At the time, I was very stupid to go back and not realize he didn't love me, he just wanted all criminal charges, and especially LEGAL (THE LAWSUITE) DROPPED, and the divorce dropped, bc in the divorce he had to pay and split up marital property and give me my non marital property. BUT WHAT I DID I CAN'T CHANGE, THE DUMB MISTAKES I MADE I CANT CHANGE ..... WHAT DO I DO FROM HERE TO MAKE IT BETTER, IF YOU HAVE ANY ANSWERS FOR ME, HELP TO OFFER PLEASE SEND ME A PRIVATE MESSAGE. I HAD SOMEONE REPLY ON MY PICTURE AND LIKING IT, I PUT MY PICTURE ON HERE SO ANYONE ABLE WILLING TO HELP, KNOWS WHO I AM, AND IF WE MEET AT SOME POINT YOU WILL SEE IT IS ME, AND HAVE LEGAL DOCUMENTATION TO VERIFY MY SITUATION. I AM A HUMAN BEING IN NEED OF HELP, WHAT EVER I LOOK LIKE IS NOT IMPORTANT TO ME, GETTING HELP IS.

 

These were taken in the hospital, and I was handcuffed to the bed under arrest, the other picture is of me before this with my 2 girls and their friends, do I just forget I had kids????? PLEASE HELP

Hi I need an attorney or someone with legal experience in family law. I'm now alone living in Brooklyn NY, I am on SSI. I was in a DV shelter in 2008 with my daughters, I made a very big mistake and had went back to my husband causing my children to wind up there with me having to get out. His father owns the marital home, under his fathers name, I'm going back and fourth 3 years now from Brooklyn NY to Staten Island 2 trains and the ferry. In the course of 3 years I havnt gotten anywhere with the court in Staten Island. No custody legally issued BUT .... MY KIDS ARE THERE NOT WITH ME, BECAUSE SUPPOSODLY AT THE AGES THEY ARE 14 AND 15 THEY CAN DECIDE WHERE THEY WANT TO LIVE, AND AS FAR AS I'M BEING TOLD THE DECISION IS THERES BECAUSE OD THEIR AGES. ALL OF A SUDDEN AFTER CARING FOR THEM ON PUBLIC ASSISTANCE SINCE BEFORE BIRTH AFTER BIRTH, FOR A SHORT 2 MONTH PERIOD THAT IT TOOK ME TO FIND AN APARTMENT WITH HOUSING ASSISTANCE THEY DIDN'T LIKE THE APARTMENT, AND SINCE I HAD BEEN ARRESTED FOR TELLING THEM OVER THE PHONE I LOVE THEM AND CANT LIVE WITHOUT THEM, HIS FATHER SERVED ME WITH AN ORDER OF PROTECTION THAT I COULD HAVE NO CONTACT WITH THEM FOR 2 YRS. AND I NEVER DID NOTHING BUT LOVE THEM. THE LAWYER I HAD ORIGINALLY SINCE THE SHELTER WITHDREW DUE TO HE SAID "A CONFLICT OF INTEREST" ..... ONE OF MY HUSBANDS GIRLFRIENDS 2 YEARS AGO HAS TWIN DAUGHTERS AT THE TIME 17 YEARS OLD, ONE OF THE TWIN DAUGHTERS WAS ARRESTED ON BEHALF OF HER FATHER FOR SUPPOSODLY HARRASSING THE FATHERS LIVE IN GIRLFRIEND, AND SO MY 18B ATTORNEY WAS ASSIGNED TO THAT CASE AND HE SAYS WHEN IT WAS ASSIGNED TO HIM, HE HAD NO IDEA THERE WAS ANY CONNECTION. THERE IS NO CONNECTION BETWEEN THIS WOMAN AND MYSELF, IT WAS AND IS BETWEEN HER AND MY HUSBAND AND MY HUSBAND WAS A WITNESS TO PROTECT THE 17 YEAR OLD AND MY ATTORNEY WAS THE APPOINTED ATTORNEY FOR THIS GIRL, THEREFORE WOULD BE EXAMINING MY HUSBAND ON THE STAND MAKING IT A CONFLICT OF INTEREST FOR HIM TO REPRESENT ME. NONE OF THIS IS FAIR AT ALL, HE HAD MY CASE FIRST YES, WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT I DON'T KNOW. I DON'T HAVE A FAMILY SUPPORT SYSTEM TO HOLD MY HAND AND ADVISE ME THROUGH THIS, AND/OR MONEY TO HIRE A SUPPORT SYSTEM, I NOW HAVNT SEEN OR SPOKEN TO MY GIRLS IN 2 YEARS AND A MONTH APPROXAMATELY. I NEVER IMAGINED BEING SEPARATED FROM THEM, I NEVER IMAGINED THEM TURNING AGAINST ME, HOW I'VE ALWAYS DONE EVERYTHING FOR THEM . NOW I NEED TO FIND ANOTHER ATTORNEY, LEGAL AID HOWEVER THERE IS A WAITING LIST. THE NEXT COURT DATE IS IN JAN. ALL IM LIVING ON IS A LITTLE OVER $700 A MOTHER. HE'S COLLECTING INCOME FOR THEM SINCE THEY ARE LIVING THERE AND TAKING ME FOR MY LAST $25 A MONTH IN CHILD SUPPORT. WHEN I FELL BEHIND HE TRIED TO PUT ME IN JAIL, SO I HAD MY INTERNET AND PHONE SHUT OFF AND GOT THE MONEY UP TO PAY ALMOST $200 IN ARREARS, BUT THAT WASNT GOOD ENOUGH, i STILL OWED ABOUT $100 AND THE MAJISTRATE ASKED HIM AND HE STILL WANTED ME PUT IN JAIL, LUCKILY THE MAJISTRATE JUST ISSUED A JUDGEMENT AGAINST ME. I DON'T GET THIS HE HAS 3X THE INCOME, IS GETTING SOCIAL SERVICES, FOOD STAMPS LIVING IN THE MARITAL HOME FREE SINCE HIS FATHER OWNS IT, IM HERE WITH NOTHING, NOT EVEN MY NON MARITAL PROPERTY, IS THERE ANYONE THAT CAN POSSIBLY POINT ME IN THE RIGHT DIRECTION. IF YOU CAN PLEASE SEND ME A PRIVATE MESSAGE. ALSO THE COURT ORDER WAS SUBJECT TO FAMILY COURT, YET I NEVER SAW MY KIDS AGAIN, NOW ITS UP, I VE EMAILED THEM , I GOT BACK A NASTY REPLY, OR COLD FROM MY 15 YR OLD, STATING NO ONE IS REFRAINING THEM OR POISIONING THEM AGAINST ME. TO STOP WHAT IM DOING TO THEIR FATHER AND THEN MAYBE SOMEDAY WE CAN HAVE A RELATIONSHIP AGAIN. I KNOW THEY ARE STILL VERY YOUNG AND HAVE BEEN AILINATED AND POISIONED AND BRAINWASHED BUT WHAT DO I DO, EVERY DAY IS A STRUGGLE WITHOUT THEM, DOES ANYONE HAVE ANY ADVICE?????

I need legal help, advice, whatever someone can offer who is in either the brooklyn ny area, Staten Island, or Manhattan. I need a private family court attorney or maybe lawstudent to help me. I cant afford to hire a private attorney, and I'm going through what I'm going through almost 3 years now, If there is a way that you can send me a private message on here, I'd really appreciate it. Because I don't want to put the situation on here, since my ex will see it, and I want my business to be kept private. But I will say this in short, IT HAS TO DO WITH CUSTODY, MARITAL AND NON MARITAL PROPERTY, AND GETTING A LEGAL DIVORCE. I CAN ALSO TELL YOU, USUALLY AS MOST PEOPLE ARE AWARE WHEN THINGS GO WRONG THE MAN HAS TO LEAVE, THE WOMANS PLACE IS IN THE MARITAL HOME WITH HER CHILDREN. I'M BEING PUT IN THE MANS PLACE IN THIS CRAZY SITUATION, I HAD TO LEAVE SIMPLY BECAUSE AT THE AGES OF 4 AND 5 MY HUSBAND BEGGED ME TO GIVE UP MY RENT CONTROLLED APARTMENT AND MOVE INTO A HOME HIS FATHER BOUGHT. I SHOULD NOT HAVE, I TALKED TO HIM ABOUT IT NOT BEING A GOOD IDEA FOR WELL OVER A YEAR, AFTER HIS FATHER ALREADY BOUGHT THE 6 OVER 6 IN STATEN ISLAND. BECAUSE I KNEW ALTHOUGH THE FATHER IS PUTTING MY NAME ON THE LEASE, HIS WHOLE FAMILY SISTER, BROTHER IN LAW HER KIDS THEIR FRIENDS AND FAMILY THE FATHER, I KNEW THERE WOULD BE A PROBLEM SIMPLY BECAUSE FOR ONE THING I DIDNT FIT IN WITH HIS FAMILY (AND THAT IS SO DETAILED ITS NOTHING I WANT TO PUT ON HERE IN PUBLIC), BUT ANYWAY I DID MAKE THE MISTAKE OF MOVING ABOVE THEM AND PUTTING MONEY INTO THE APARTMENT TO MAKE IT ABSOUTELY AS BEAUTIFUL AS COULD BE, AND SLAVED OVER IT NOT LIKE A TENANT LIKE AN OWNER (no my name was not on the deed) AFTER ALL HE WAS MY HUSBAND AND HIS FATHER OWNED THE HOUSE, SO IT WASNT LIKE A LANDLORD DOING THE WORK WE WERE, AND ALOT WITH MONEY THAT WASNT EVEN MARITAL PROPERTY, A ONE TIME AMOUNT OF MONEY I HAD AND I PUT IT ALL INTO THAT HOUSE, THINKING WE WOULD BE THERE FOR LIFE, AND EVEN IF WE BREAK UP, MY FATHER IN LAW IS NOT GOING TO THROW ME OUT, IT IS ILLEGAL IN ANYCASE. BUT IN MY CASE IT WAS A VIOLENT SITUATION, SO I LEFT ONCE AND WITH THE KIDS HAD A TEMPORARY PLACE TILL WE FOUND AN APARTMENT. BUT I DECIDED TO FORGIVE AND FORGET AND WENT BACK, DROPPED ALL CHARGES INCLUDING A VERY BIG LAWSUITE, AGAIN THINGS DIDNT WORK OUT, HE JUST WANTED ME BACK TO DROP THE LAWSUITE AND THE DIVORCE SO HE WOULD NOT HAVE TO PAY CHILD SUPPORT. AGAIN I HAD TO LEAVE, HIS FATHER WANTED ME OUT (AGAIN I WONT GO INTO DETAILS IN PUBLIC). BUT AT WHICH POINT SAFE HORIZONES ACCOMPANIED ME TO GET MY KIDS AND SOME BASIC NECESSITIES, THE KIDS WERE ALREADY GONE AND THE PRECIENT THERE WAS NEVER ANY HELP TO ME. Well I'll cut it short here, now the kids are physically living with him the past 2 and a half years, and I love them more than anything and want my children. But I seem to be getting the run around from the free 18b attorneys, and other free resources available. I dont have the money for a private attorney, the case is in front of not a judge or majistrate, but a referee. I asked my assigned counsel and he says, I DO NOT HAVE A LEGAL RIGHT TO ASK A JUDGE HEAR THE CASE, THAT I DONT GET. IF YOU CAN BE OF ASSISTANCE, THIS IS A VERY COMPLEX SITUATION, IF YOU CAN PRIVATELY MESSAGE ME, ANY HELP I NEED THAT YOU CAN OFFER I'D APPRECIATE, BC I DON'T KNOW HOW TO HANDLE THE LEGAL INS AND OUTS OF THE LAW.

I SIMPLY HAVE AN 18B ATTORNEY TELLING ME OH, JUST LET THE KIDS STAY THERE BECAUSE THAT IS WHAT THEY WANT IS TO STAY THERE WITH THEIR FRIENDS, THERE'S MORE TO THEIR WELL BEING THAN FRIENDS. BECAUSE AS I'VE ALWAYS RAISED THEM TO KNOW WHEN THE PARTY IS OVER AND THERES NO ONE PROVIDING EVERYTHING FOR FREE, YOU DON'T GET TO SAY NOW I WANT WHAT EVERYONE ELSE HAS WORKED THEIR ENTIRE LIVES FOR, AND THEN WHERE WILL THEY BE. I JUST WANT TO BE THEIR MOTHER AGAIN AND GUIDE THEM AND LOVE THEM, I NEED SOMEONE WILLING TO HELP. THANKS